Proximity with Ken Joslin

Coaching with Ken | Mastering the Currencies of Confidence & Energy

Ken Joslin

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Unlock the power of confidence and energy – these are currencies just as impactful as the dollars in your bank account! Join me on a profound exploration of how discipline is the key to accumulating the self-assurance you need to thrive. I get personal and share my own skirmishes with the snooze button, revealing how the victory of a disciplined morning ritual has compounded interest into robust confidence. As we navigate daily decisions and relationships, we're constantly 'spending' our confidence. It's a valuable currency that, when managed wisely, can unlock doors to opportunities and foster stronger connections.

This episode isn't just about personal growth; it's a call to action for all aspiring leaders out there. I dissect the unique energy men wield – an energy that, when channeled appropriately, has the power to create, influence, and leave a lasting mark on the world. Drawing from the insights of David Deida's "The Way of the Superior Man," I delve into the stewardship of this potent force. It's an invitation to reflect on how you invest your own confidence and energy – are you fueling your leadership journey and empowering others to soar to new heights? Listen in, and let's master these invisible currencies together, shaping a legacy of positive impact and heightened influence.

Confidence Is Currency

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What's up guys , welcome to another episode of as the Leader Grows and I want to ask you a question when someone says currency , what do you think about ? Do you think about money , finances Like if you closed your eyes right now as long as you're not driving down the road . And I said currency , what do you think of ? For me , a lot of times I would just say $100 bill . I'd think of Benjamin Franklin , $100 bill . But I want to spend the next few minutes with you guys talking about what I believe is even a more important currency , and there's two things I want to talk about today . Number one I want to talk about confidence . Confidence is currency . You spend that currency every single day of your life , in the decisions you make and in the relationships you build . Let me say that again Confidence is currency . You spend it every single day in the decisions you make and in the relationships that you build . You have got to be able to build confidence Now , coming off of last week's episode where I talked about the highest form of self-love being what Discipline , ken ? How do I build confidence ? Confidence it is discipline . It literally is small , daily discipline , decisions over time , always equal , monumental results . Success cannot escape you when you do the right things every single day .

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I worked late last night , sunday night , which I don't normally do . I spent a couple hours preparing for the week and then I went to bed about an hour and a half later than I normally do . So when the alarm actually got me this morning at 4 am , I did not want to get out of bed . I looked at it and I'm like holy cow . And so , immediately , how our brains work is , my brain went through all of the scenarios of how I could sleep an extra hour , get a different gym class , hit a different orange theory , do my call , my coaching call , gsd community call at 7 am Central and then go to the gym and I'm literally like trying to convince myself why I'm not going to do what I said I was going to do and I'm like , no , I'm getting out of bed . Why ? Because that level of discipline , getting up , getting my goals , gratitude affirmations done , my worship time , my quiet time , my morning routine , as I shared with you guys a lot of what that looks like Getting dressed for the gym , my pre-workout , brushing my teeth , doing my quiet time . We're in day 19 of a 21-day 4610 challenge inside of our GSD community , a 21 day , 46 10 challenge inside of our GSD community . And so the alarm went off and I laid there for probably 30 or 45 seconds trying to convince myself or talk myself into hitting the alarm for 5am and sleep in another hour .

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Well , I finally got up , did all my stuff that I normally do , got my pre-workout , came upstairs Before I even walked downstairs , I turned my Peloton on and I turned my speaker on , my big Bose Bluetooth speaker that rattles the house when I ride my Peloton . So I did my quiet time . I got finished with that , got dressed , came in here , hopped on the Peloton , absolutely crushed it . Once the music's playing and I've got it cranked and the whole house is loud , I'm ready to roll and I was , you know , whoo shouting , fired up , sweating . I'm doing all this stuff right . It's like 4.30 in the morning and I'm going nutso . Well , 30 minutes before I'm trying to convince myself why it's okay for me to stay in bed . You worked hard this weekend , man . You spent a lot of hours on Friday . You've done a lot of great things . It's okay one day . I mean , all these excuses are rolling around in my head on why it would be okay for me to hit the snooze button but I got up , got Peloton about 10 minutes in the Peloton ride .

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Once I got a sweat going , once my pre-workout started kicking in , once Dennis Morton on Peloton started doing the little ride thing he does , my energy was about to explode . So what happened after I got done there ? I went straight to Planet Fitness . I did chest and tris . Some of you guys saw my Instagram post last week . I did for the very first time ever because I went with my friend Jamie to do a spin class at Lifetime 100-pound dumbbell chest press . We don't even have 100-pound dumbbells at Planet Fitness . They stop at 75 . So today I went in and I grabbed the 65 and I did incline chest with 65-pound dumbbells , which I've never done before .

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Because Saturday I did the eighties , I did the nineties and then I did the a hundred pound dumbbells and I did the one rep . I probably could have done two , maybe even three reps with a hundred pound dumbbells , but I felt like a million bucks . So where was my confidence level on Saturday ? High . Where was my confidence level today ? Super high . Why ? Because I was disciplined . I didn't go with what I felt , I didn't go with the excuses , I didn't go with any of those things . Listen , discipline is going with your predetermined , predetermined decision . I already made a decision last night . It's in my planner , it's ready to roll . 4 am , alarm clock . Get up , post my worship song on Instagram , go to my YouVersion Bible app . Do my deal . Walk downstairs , grab my pre-workout , get dressed , go to the bathroom , brush my teeth , turn the Peloton on , make the bed and I'm ready to roll .

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Confidence is currency . But , guys , you cannot build confidence outside of being disciplined . You can't do it . I'm telling you , it is impossible . If you lack discipline in one area of your life , it will always bleed over into other areas of your life . If you lack confidence , if you lack discipline , when you lack discipline in one area , it will bleed over into other areas . Listen our minds . We have these animal brains that want rest . They want relaxation . They don't want to be pushed . They don't want to get out of bed at 4 am when you've only slept six hours . They want to just rest . Man , this bed feels good . I don't want to get out of this bed . So we're talking about two different types of currency today . Not a hundred dollar bills , not your bank account . We're talking about confidence . Number one , because confidence is a currency we spend every single day . Every decision you make and every relationship you build are built through confidence .

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I shared with my team or my community this morning on our GSD community . Call my friend Jamie Lee Kermit . She shared about I don't know six , seven weeks ago . She's been on the New York Times Bestseller List now for about six or seven weeks . Her husband , apollo , is in my mastermind that I'm in and a part of with Erwin McManus . Seven week her husband , paulo , is in my mastermind that I'm in in a part of with erwin mcmanus and she shared then she had her lineup was insane on her live . That she did 259 000 people joined in online to watch this . Tony robbins , brennan brashard , um , dean graziosi , mel robbins , I mean you , robin roberts , oprah came on and even did a session . I think Oprah was the only one that wasn't in . John Maxwell was there in studio , stephen Furtick just an unbelievable lineup of people and Oprah came on and then Jamie started sharing about . She started sharing about how Oprah had given her her phone number and it took her between three to four years to ever reach out to Oprah . Why ? Because she didn't think she deserved to have a conversation with her .

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Listen , guys , confidence is currency , listen , and you don't have to necessarily be confident at the beginning in who you are . Be confident in the vision that God's placed on the inside of you and that if God has given you a vision that's so massive and so large that when you look at it you're like holy cow , god , I don't know that I can pull this off . I would say this to you If you don't have a vision that's that big , where you go , you're looking at everything going . God , I don't know that I can do this . I would question whether or not your vision and the dream that you say God's put in your heart is big enough . So confidence is currency . That's the first part of currency that we're going to talk about today is confidence

The Currency of Energy

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The second part of confidence , or the second part of currency that I want to talk about today , is energy . Ooh , energy is a currency and energy is vital . So here's the question I want to ask you this morning when are you spending the currency of energy in your life ? Where are you directing it ? You just don't frivolously go out and spend money on things you don't want , you don't need . You're not going to go buy something that you are like no , I'm not crazy about that . Then why would you take your energy that you have and spend it or direct it into an area in your life or a relationship in your life or any area of your life where it's literally not going to return on investment ? So your energy is currency .

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I have a thing that I created called the Code . I did this last year . I've done a couple podcasts on it and every day in my planner for those of you guys watching the video , I have it right here . I live by a code . I am aware of my thought , life , my language , which turns into what , my energy . I'm aware of my energy . I'm aware of my money , which is the current , that is an energy .

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That currency is an energy , and my sexual desires , which is one of the most strongest forms of energy that we have , especially as men , with the seed that God's put on the inside of us the ability to be able to procreate , to have vision , to build businesses , to do all the things that we do . Now , listen , ladies have it too . I'm not saying they don't , but ladies do not have the opportunity to be able to give the seed they have to another human being and reproduce life and reproduce and be creative , procreative . Now , without the ladies , obviously , we can't procreate at all , but there's an energy on the inside of us as men , and so my question to you today is where are you expending your energy ?

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I am on my fifth time through the book the Way of the Superior man by David Data and I'm literally almost done again . I have it three times in a row back in October , back to back to back . This time , over the last two weeks it's been back to back and I'm almost done the second time . The entire if I had to put that entire book in a nutshell , it's exactly what we're talking about right now .

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Men , you have an unbelievable form of energy on the inside of you . God has breathed in you and created you as a creative being and your seed whether it be your money that you spend , that you use to be able to build and have influence and impact or the seed God's put on the inside of you in the form of your sexual desires , and when that seed goes forth it can procreate . Or the seed that God's put on the inside of you , which is the ability to be able to have vision and to be able to cast a vision and to be able to see things that nobody else can see . He's giving you that ability to be able to do that . So , really , the premise of the entire book , if I had to sum it up , I would say it's this how are you controlling the energy that's on the inside of you ?

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So , two types of currency .

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Number one is confidence .

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You spend it every single day .

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You spend that currency every day in every decision you make , in every relationship you build .

Building Confidence and Energy for Leadership

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The other is your energy .

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Energy is a currency . How are you spending it ? Now let me say this , and this is something that I'm super excited about to be able to bring to you guys If you don't handle your money well , if you don't handle your money well , which is an energy , then chances are you don't handle your energy or your confidence well . If you cannot handle your money well number one your confidence is not going to be very high , but you're also , more than likely , not going to spend your energy the way that God desires for you to spend your energy . And here's the big idea and truth today that building confidence and energy is essential to you becoming a great leader and it will raise the level of your influence and impact . The number one purpose and point that God puts you here on earth to do is have influence and impact to help other people become the best version of themselves .

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Guys , I hope you enjoyed this episode of as the Leader Grows . It was quick , it was short , but there are two types of currency I want you to focus on today Confidence and energy . How am I spending those two things ? Appreciate you , guys . We'll see you next week .